We all know someone who has that special ability to turn heads and light up a room as they enter it. These are the people who exude confidence, warmth and energy and who others naturally gravitate towards. They seem resilient to life’s setbacks and always seem to use them as stepping-stones to success.
Despite common belief, these people aren’t always the most naturally confident people in the world. They’ve just learnt a few tricks to help them appear confident, push through barriers and not allow fear hold them back.
If you’ve ever heard of the phrase ‘fake it until you make it’, then this certainly runs true for confidence. By learning the skills to fake confidence, we can begin to take the actions that ultimately CREATE it.
Without self-confidence you will always be living your life with the handbrake on. You’ll miss out on all the wonderful opportunities that life has to offer and the world will miss on the incredible gifts that only you have to give.
You are simply amazing and I can guarantee that you have a whole host of gifts and experience that need sharing with the world and that can make such a difference to those around you; but first you must find the confidence to get out there and allow yourself to truly shine.
So what are the secrets of women who truly wow?
Here are 7 top confidence tricks, that’ll have you exuding inner confidence in no time at all…
1. Know your strengths and purpose
When you live your life knowing your what strengths are and you’re totally true to yourself, you naturally shine and radiate an inner confidence.
Do more of what you’re good at as this provides you with a sense of achievement and keeps your confidence levels high. Be aware of your strengths and ensure that you use them daily.
We all have our weaknesses and make mistakes, that’s part of being human. But by focusing on your strengths rather than your weaknesses; self-doubt and lack of confidence quickly takes its place in the back seat.
2. Have your own self-confidence ritual
When you know that you’re going to be in a situation requiring extra self-confidence such as an interview, a party or giving a speech etc. have a little ritual that will give you an instant boost.
Stand tall, take deep breaths and visualise yourself going through the entire experience perfectly. Sprinkle yourself in imaginary ‘magic dust’, imagine wearing an invisible ‘confidence cloak’ or have a series of affirmations that reinforce the fact that you are amazing and totally capable. Find what works for you and practice it whenever you feel your nerves or self-doubt creeping in.
Have a selection of your favourite outfits that you always feel great in and make sure that you dress your absolute best when you need to be on top form.
Learn what tricks work best for you and allow a few minutes prep-time before any major event where extra confidence is needed. If you feel your confidence slipping, excuse yourself, retreat for a moment and put your ritual back in place.
3.Enjoy time alone
Take time to be alone, know yourself and enjoy your own company. This can be an incredibly empowering thing to do and allows you to find calm and peace in a busy world.
Practice taking yourself out to watch a movie, go for lunch or have a coffee alone. Be free to totally choose how you spend your own time away from the obligations of other people.
Indulge in ‘me’ time and learn to take care of yourself and your needs first. By taking care of your needs you’ll become calmer and more prepared to look after the needs of those you love too.
Nothing shouts out ‘lack of confidence’ more than someone walking with his or her shoulders hunched, looking down at the floor. In the same way, you can spot someone with high self-confidence a mile off. They will stand tall, walk with purpose and hold their head high.
How you hold yourself physiologically, determines how you hold yourself psychologically. So if you want to feel like you’re ready to take on the world, you need to hold yourself in a way that communicates confidence. When you stand tall with your shoulders & head back and walk with confidence and purpose, people will begin to perceive you as a person of confidence and high self-esteem.
When you appear like someone with high self-worth, you command respect and others respond to you in an entirely different way.
5. Stop taking it all so personally
Confident people are happy with themselves and how they choose to live their lives. They understand that ultimately, no-ones going to live a minute of their lives for them, so it’s up to them to live it their way.
If something doesn’t go to plan or they hit a bad patch, they deal with it and let it go. They know how to put everything into perspective, they take time out when needed and always see their glass as half-full not half-empty.
Realise that you cannot control other people’s emotions. If someone is snappy with you, remember there’s a whole story behind what you see and the likelihood is that it has nothing to do with you at all. If people judge or are jealous, realise that this is a result of their own insecurities, self-doubt or limiting beliefs, not yours.
Take control of your own life. Life an honest, true and kind life and let the rest go.
Self-development builds confidence. As you become more aware of yourself and seek out to achieve your goals and dreams, confidence develops at lightening speed.
Ditch the excuses, the procrastination and negative beliefs, and get on with creating your very best life. Ask yourself what you really want from life. Create a plan to make it happen (even if you don’t know how just yet) and start taking action right away.
7. Make a difference to the world
Selflessness is one of key factors of confident women. When you take the focus from yourself and put it onto others, self-doubt disappears.
From showing a genuine, caring interest in others, to mentoring, charity work or being someone’s support; the sense of fulfillment and confidence achieved by making a difference in the world is immense and is win-win all round.